I pray for you. Kids dont get over knowing a parent committed suicide. Mothers who have lost the custody of their children are also seen to have a higher risk of anxiety and depression, and substance use. When losing an adult child, the grief can be compounded by guilt, by the loss of a friend, by the contemplation of our own mortality, and by the reality that the end of life is perceived as progressively less tragic the older a person gets. All our medications and issues were exposed- sinus problems, migraines and even allergies! I think back to my relationship with my mother and I think of my favorite memories and they are not the ones that happened before I was 18. Will you be there for him at least make an offer of being there for him? Roxanna, I feel your pain. They treat me like dirt and I am a good person!! Whether it is serving food at a charity kitchen, or helping adults learn to read and write in your librarys literacy program theres something you can volunteer to do. Those of us who have gone through this have a serious trust issue. Read this: Who Will Prepare Your Case? He loves his daddy but will not let me hold him. You can STILL do things for them, get a chest for each one and fill it with things they love, have stars named after them, etc. She didnt feel so good when they started in on her. Prepare for recurring grief. CPS had called me and asked me to meet them at the DHS building in the town i was living in said that they wanted to do a meeting with me and to bring my children because they hadnt seen them in a while. My heart doesnt break into any more. Grief is an emotional reaction to the loss of loved ones, which usually manifests itself in sadness and crying. The social workers SAY that their job is to reunify families but in truth, the funding from the federal government very much encourages foster care, then TPR and adoption instead. ME AND MY JUST WENT THROUGH THAT CPS we WERE FIGHTING FOR OUR G.BABY AND OF COURSE we LOST.WE DONE EVERYTHING THEY WANTED FROM US.PASSED THE DRUG TEST THE WHOLE LOT.WHEN ALL WAS SAID AND DONE the reason why we didnt win was for one I came off too aggressive number two they dont return to convicted felons.I had a conviction. You could write poetry, paint, or even write your loved one a letter. In my town theres a group of volunteers who clear trash and overgrown blackberry brambles from the yards of homeowners who cant manage to do the work for themselves. i had recently relapsed leading me to seek help ?i didnt want to get bad again so i told my ex and next day he brought me to get help. My heart is beyond broken. The death of a child is the greatest sorrow for parents. There may have b. Alice, Im sure youre not the only mom who doesnt want her kids back, so I wouldnt call it abnormal. You see I used to write. I was fragile before and then they took the greatest parts of me. Arizona has cases that are EXACTLY what is going on with me. I hope your life has taken a turn for the best. Foster parents dumped my kids, I raised them for years after horrific abuse took place. I was honest! Call Molly Kenny today for more information. Also-now there is another rx pill-called a mood stabilizer that helps with the depression. I needed to read this more than anyone will ever know THANK YOU! Here are a few steps you can take to cope with this change and loss: Losing custody of a child is a common issue that many parents face during the process of separation or divorce, and also in cases when the parents- for reasons such as substance abuse, reported child abuse and negelect, neglect due to mental and physical illnesses- are deemed incapable to taking care of their children. My husband & I did everything the court asked of me & still they took my kids. This only works if a person is morally ready to do something to distract himself. I underwent counseling I was forced to get an permanent restraining order on my husband that had not done any harm to me over 6 years. Losing a child "is a trauma that doesn't go away," says Marsha Mailick, a social scientist at the University of Wisconsin-Madison who has studied bereavement. They told me he was not to be left alone with my kids so I made sure he wasnt ever left alone with them. Plans can sometimes be messy in the beginning in order to create a desirable effect in the end. If you feel - or have ever felt - some of these feelings too, you are not alone. I will pray for you. Iv tried everything. Out of 2 years he spent 161 days with me and 71 of those were overnights. My husband and i have been fighting to get our beautiful daughter back for over two years. I work alot and only see them for two hours a week. I am wondering who you reported this to. I hate myself that I let CPS come into my life and take them from me. This is bigger than fighting for which address is our childrens residence. Im so tired. Depression Poems For Those Who Struggleand Those who want to better understand the illness 1. But, that started about 25 years ago and now, I dont even get an emotional response from writing about it. It is not the end I know when youre devastated and depressed it is easy to not want to live, but you can get through this. NY would not take the TN medical insurance. When I had one baby they held me down with hands over my mouth and induced my labor. The only thing I have ever wanted. Now he calls another mom. Talk to your doctor about your depression. The more you earn, the more likely you are of being able to help your children when they need you. By the grace of God, we will have all of Eternity to share with our kids! After the Hell Ive been though Not to mention the hell my poor babies are feeling. Ive suffered from extreme major depressive disorder for years but in the last two years since I havent seen my child, it has been much worse. I will never believe that God took my children from me. Disclaimer: Reading information on this website does not constitute the formation of an attorney-client relationship with our firm. I have read the last chapter. I got approved for housing I got off my drugs. Im literally hurting emotionally and physically. jonvaughnrealtor@gmail.com. Going through a divorce, child custody battle, mediation, or any other type of family dispute can be extremely difficult for you and your family members. Thanks for the work you do on here to help people. My girls got taken from me when they were 4 & 5. Make sure you study your states social services regulatory laws and also be aware of your civil rights. This is my horrifying life right now, you wrote this last year, what happened? CPS is trying to take my children even though I am doing my case plan perfectly and not missing any visits and I am STILL getting them taken awaypossibly FOREVER??? That is what keeps me going. Im so sorry youre going through this. I was devastated !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !! They said I couldnt take guardianship because my husband has had cancer and I care for a mentally handicapped man and many other petty reasons I have strong income and job security. They are trying to get legislation passed to give rights that the Constitution deems unalienable, back to parents. I will always be love her. Lets fight this together, turn your hearts to God. Streaming videoing with a smartphone is even better since if the socialist worker has the cops along, for the SW to have the cop snatch the phone doesnt erase the video. Your anger could stem from the perceived loss of control over your child, or feel that decisions are unfair or unjust. Focus on the good things. As their mother or father, you have parental rights, and judges are not in the practice . Is there anything I can do to avoid turning my son in? I just had the last day of my TPR hearing today, What a joke. You could start worrying about the child, their future, your future with them, the legal battles would also have been an added source of stress. This is history people Cps and the government are out of control. Now my grandchild is in the system and I am told I am not grandma. Im there!!!! They usually don't even have a criminal record and have never been to jail. God gives each of us on this earth a free will. There have been a few cases where the parents got their children back many years later when the adoptive parents gave up. But either way my baby will know shes enough, shes worth it, and shes loved. If you have concerns or doubts about your abilities, you may need to reconsider getting child custody. Any other suggestions? My six children are gone amd were given to my ex, the abuser. Please try it. They want our children for profit. In some cases, the mood can be masked by excessive physical complaints. She brought another worker with her to get our grandson who was nice but we were hysterical. I live in the Colorado springs area. Neglecting to answer questions or answering questions in a roundabout way may lead a child to make up stories and even blame themselves for the death or loss. And so is your pain. eight 1 six 6 four 5 four 1 five 2 If I cannot answer, please let me know that you found my number on FightCPS, and I will get back with you ASAP! They can also present very differently in men versus women. Regain their trust and respect and above all, keep yourself clean. I cry for my girls day and night. Do you have a case appointed lawyer? You can leave a prayer request on this page. And cry for them boy do i still cry for them every chance I get. Write as much as you need to relieve the pain. He came out on top. I know that God has not given up on me, no matter what wrong choices I made, and we have all made less than the best choice at one time or another. i went on my own choice to get better for me and my kids. My website is http://cristinabcaesar.us She told me that I have ZERO chance of getting my kids. Do it for yourself, and for your children. Share your pain. The powerful gang known as CPS will not stop until we stand up to them but we cant because dumb idiots who dont have kids but go to school and learn about kids think they know how and what parents should do even if they dont know what its like. I pray for you daily. I dont blame them. (We lived with my parents). Start looking for one now, who will give testimony that youre not likely to get that depressed again. The caseworker defends EVERY nefarious action. Does anyone have any experience with this. When the challenges associated with custody issues become especially prolonged or intense, they can lead to symptoms of common mental health conditions such as anxiety or depression. Hopefully one day in my lifetime I will see this broken system crumble! Every time I started feeling sad and crying I just told myself no I didnt do anything wrong. (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Cps became involved in my life when my only child was 21months. Your children are going to grow up and have their own kids one day. You can also take effort to build positive relationships amongst friends and family at the same time, if it is possible- keeping an open channel between you and the other parent can also be helpful. There is also another AMAZING book I HAVE read that is called Everything Happens for a Reason. And to those of you who are Christians, remember that the Bible says that Everything works together for good to those who love the Lord. Remember the story of Joseph? I lost both my girls to cps 6 years ago over marijuana consumption while pregnant, ariana was taken at birth and emily who was 3 at the time, it was a 2 year battle which ended in me voluntarily giving up my rights because i was told if i didnt that i would be deemed a neglectful parent and they would take any children i were to ever have, i am facing some depressing times right now because the adoptive mother always promised i would get to talk to them and would eventually let me see them, well she doesnt and yesterday was the first day of the school year and their dad was there for them but i wasnt allowed or even told about it. This has to be stopped! I hired another lawyer to help me go back to court after filing a frurd an destress on my case. There are nine factors in all, focusing on the emotional and physical needs of the child and each parents ability to meet them. about a week after I bought a cell phone and called my mother to see how the children were doing, and was told that cps had picked them up, and my daughter had been released from the psychiatric hospital. Now having two other children that i needed to bring back to TN to get updated on their shots etc. I hope you write me back!! I was devastated! Ive made cupcakes for charity. I have over 2000 pictures of him and everything he went to foster care with was paid for by me. I, too am trying to find my new identity. There are many things you can do to look after yourself as you cope with the loss of custody of your child. Strangers or family? They are calling me an alcoholic because I somehow keep failing for etg (alcohol) when I do not drink alcohol. Your family and friends need to know that despite your intense pain, youre going to get through this. I am 23 have been a single mom since my oldest my 5 yr old daughter was born. Pray for your kids, trust God, and keep on going. .. i am not going to give up! I have made 4 attempts to contact her and her supervisor(2 attempts each in 10 days) to see if I could see my grandson and say a decent good bye. Empty chair, empty room, empty space in every family picture. The 5 Stages of Grief. Best of luck stay strong. Shes now 35 and hasnt spoken to me in about 18 years. He said once a month. To die. He was my only support and he is a kind and hardworking man. Nothing I could have said would have made any difference if He did not soften their heart. God has a plan in all of this! They brought 15 cops in my room and did this. Lord knows I need a support system and Lord knows Im willing to support others going through this nightmare. I contacted an attorney that supposedly fights dcfs cases and his response was go and leave your daughter at a Dcfs location so they wont charge you. why would they take them when im already taking steps to change? It was almost 30 years ago for my family but it changed us in ways I could never put into words. I just read what my next experience will be once I stop breathing. I have 100% guaranteed childcare just feet away 24/7.. When we had our children with us, they learned from our behavior more than from our words. We can glorify God by using our experiences to encourage others and to fight for the right of parents to raise their own children as we see fit unless of course, there is actual criminal activity going on. Hes 17 now. My cousin and her husband care for and love my daughter so incredibly that I feel selfish for even trying to remain her mother and get her back. People need to stick together and expose this corruption. In most cases, sharing one-on-one time with both parents is important for healthy parent-child bonding. Still, despite many widowed seniors experiencing problems with . The key is proving that your depression will not have an adverse effect on your ability to act as a parent. She called back and said she would take him to the Dr. and I needed to pack his favorite things as she was going to get him in an hour and after the Dr. visithe would go into his permanent foster/adoption home. We fought for the kids for 3 years. by . Thank you. If you do this, keep your appointments for evaluations as anti-depressants are known to sometimes make the depression worse rather than better. Please use the comment section below to let us know what works for you. My 17 year old daughter who I was actually closest to up til whe.nThey took her now doesnt even want to see me. Study depression. She defended him! It is vital that you take care of yourself. We need to defund them and change laws. i was honest of my relapse and just from telling the social worker that i was an at home mom who relapsed and seeking help?she called cps?went to my house where my ex was caring for them till i got out?my two oldest children not his blood. End of Life Mourning the Death of a Spouse When your spouse dies, your world changes. Gods going to fight for all good parents who have had there hearts ripped out by all of the many rotten cps agents! It only makes to depression WAY worse my heart goes out to you and all others who are in this situation. You might also notice some physical symptoms of aches and pains. Amber, so sorry you were depressed after your baby was born. I dont let it bother me anymore; I have four other children who love me. Learn how your comment data is processed. This post would have been helpful if I wasnt atheist. I believe He allowed my kids to be separated from me for healing; to heal my depression, anger, and abusive tendencies. Everybody does this the way they say. So I know its not the end of the world. Hi.I am in need desperately of your help with CPS. I hate them I wish nothing but misery and painful illness on them..Sorry cant help how I feel they have destroyed my whole life and I just want to leave this cold and cruel world!! I had a bad alcohol and heroin problem. Write a letter to your lost child. I try to maintain a positive attitude and i buy them gifts and i have gone to school to better myself i have a beautiful 3 bedroom house with just me and my man of 8 years and yet im still not able to see them or even talk to them and the gifts i buy cant have my name on them i feel so lost as to what to do, there adoptive mother has child abuse charges on her record for hurting my oldest and i still try to look past that and have a relationship with her but she does not want to talk to me or anything, please pray for me and my children i am feeling so hopeless and lately i have been feeling like i dont want to live anymore it just hurts so much all the time. Hi I lost my kids to cps as well it started in 2008 they were ages seven three and two family friends started lies cps believe them and they took my kids finaly adoptioning them the family that started the lies in august my oldest got ahold of me and I seen my girls it felt like a huge pain was lifted but there adopted family cut me off well tried my oldest still texts me a lot its great my youngest doesnt know of me its just hard cuz know Im confused and dont know what to do and Im scared my daughter has been brainwashed or Im not good enough and I will fail her please help me I missed my two youngest first days of school and Im missing out on their life I cant get that back I have hidden this pain for a long time Im ivyness of our women who have there kids I dont wanna be that person where is the happy full of life person. Well Im bout ready to give up..I dont wanna even think about what might happen from this point..yesterday was my last stateso here I sit..witj sleep mess and wine..smh..if I what else to do..Im gonna go crazy n Id rather for before that. Learn Acceptance. They took her because of a rush to judgment. Life is lonely and hard but please do not give up. Please pray for me. So I hope youll pull yourself together and stay with what you know is the truth but consider things from your sons point of view. Ugggh. It is not necessary to resort to the help of alcohol or drugs, also it is not necessary to appoint to itself serious drugs. As one other parent (I dont remember which) stated, the State bribes the teenagers with Financial Assistance, paying for college, and vouchers for clothes and supplies etc. Consider including her baby pictures and photos of other family members. 3.) This is usually due to the circumstances of the loss of someone. Need help please. Of course you are going to miss your kids. The more they take from me, the less I have to lose. This is the perfect opportunity for you to tap into your creativity. Some people feel that they have lost control of their child, or feel that decisions are unfair or unjust. Hope to hear from you soon :), Hi please email me also semolenala-at-Gmail.Com, What did u do to get them back Ive just lost mine after a 6 month case at family courts my hearts breaking and will do anything to get them back just dont no were to start and cant appeal till reasons come off the court justice, Feel free to email or call me, Kerry. Please also know that this too shall pass, one day our children will be all grown and cps cant touch them! Emotional Aspects of Grief. Because even though they are without you right now, they are not without God. Each birthday, Christmas, Easter, Valentines, or just because, I buy a little something that reminds me of the kids & I put it in their trunk. He wanted you to be their parents. She was the head of CPS favorite. It always makes a huge difference for your outlook on life. XOX. I was thinking of instead trying to appeal. They have to be between 8 and 330. I had to miss my visitation with my kids to undergo rehab in a different county for 3 months in which I successfully graduated. To combat grief various forums and books for parents who have lost a child have been created. Seek out lawyers and social workers that do pro bono work if money is an issue but the intent here is to be legally aware and empowered so that you can make choices that help both you and your child. (What are they going to do?Accuse me of trying to fight for my legal rights?). Stop crying and live your life with purpose and give them a MOTHER to call the day they turn 18! 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